He works from home, enjoys his work, and has many opportunities to make more money in the future.I, however, work long hours at a job I thoroughly despise and commute for over an hour each way to make less than ,000 a year.My husband has suggested I quit my job or find a part-time gig and focus on my art. What is holding me back is that so many of my friends and family think this is a bad idea.
The problem is that my daughter has severe pet allergies, and Sally has two cats and a small terrier.She’s also suggested that my daughter take allergy medication, but I find that out of line. (I’m on your side in the sense that I think a human child’s health is paramount here, but I just don’t think it will be useful to turn this into a litigation on your respective reproductive choices.) It’s absolutely fair of you to say that the present situation is dangerous to your daughter’s health.It’s also fair that your sister is anxious about leaving her dog outside for an entire weekend, especially if she lives in a coyote-heavy area.Your friends are right in that trying to make a living (or even an approximation of a living) as a freelance artist is risky and probably unlikely, but if you and your husband can easily absorb the loss of your small income, then it’s a calculated risk you should consider taking. If it doesn’t, you can try to find that part-time job and do your creative work on the side, and maybe even carve out a new career in a different field that you don’t hate. Only three months in, I can’t tell if the doubts I have are real or born from a fear of change—I’m introverted and very used to my own company. I think “a sense of destiny” is perhaps too much to ask from a three-month-old relationship, but I think “a sense of butterflies” is a perfectly reasonable expectation.You’re lucky to have options right now, and you should take advantage of that. My 27-year-old girlfriend is cute, caring, artistic, and has a heart of gold; we have compatible relationship ideals and life goals, and on paper our relationship makes sense. If you simply value and admire your girlfriend but don’t feel particularly excited about her, then don’t force yourself to keep dating her just because she’s a good person.Mallory Ortberg, aka Dear Prudence, is online weekly to chat live with readers. (Sign up below to get Dear Prudence delivered to your inbox each week. I felt like I needed to make it work because he gave me herpes, which made me feel like damaged goods. : I just ended a relationship that I stayed in far too long.I also don’t want to go just sharing this information; it’s going to be extremely difficult for me to say and I just don’t want people knowing (hence my single forever plan).A: It’s always a good day if I get to reassure someone that herpes, oral or genital, is in fact an extremely common, extremely manageable condition.We’ve been talking daily and getting to know each other. Typically, those discussions happen once sex is happening, but that won’t happen for us for at least another eight months.Or should I tell him now in case it’s a deal breaker?