It needs reciprocating in kind or there will be a tendency to feel vulnerable, exposed, and not open up any further.To be sure, there is a certain amount of risk involved in opening up to others.The New Testament clearly teaches that sex outside of marriage is sinful (1 Corinthians 6:9-11,18-20; Hebrews 13:4). Since that is true, Christians who date will want to choose activities in public places where conversations and healthy activities can be carried on without becoming involved in too much intimacy.Keep the lust in check and the touching to a minimum (Matthew -29). Since dating may eventually lead to marriage, we probably should not begin dating too early or date one person too long, unless we are ready to commit to a lifetime relationship.When we go out with someone, we should engage in lots of conversation and get to know what kind of person our date is.It would be good to observe this person in church, in various acts of service, at work, and in various social situations to see how this person conducts himself/herself and how this person treats other people.Instead, good dates might be to sporting events, high quality movies, a nice dinner, a good concert, a church activity, a museum, or a service activity.Do the kinds of things that you, as a Christian, feel good about doing.
” Finally, since the whole of Christian life is governed by God’s will, we should choose the right kind of activities for our dating.
The servant of Abraham went to the people of the city of Haran and brought back a wife for Isaac.
Isaac did not see her until the night he married her (Genesis -66).
We should avoid the kinds of places where ungodly things are the norm.
We need not be in seedy nightclubs or in bars or in decidedly vulgar movies.