So it pains me to no end to see my smart, educated, lovely female friends remain single, alone and lonely in spite of their best efforts. Surely there is something wrong with the world if they remain single for so long.
They save people’s lives and they experience beautiful things.But if love really matters to you and you don't aspire to a monastic life, put in as much time and energy into dating and romance as you do into other things you excel at. Dating is not an afterthought for when you've taken care of everything else. Give him at least as much time and energy as your spreadsheet, term paper, chihuahua or Facebook page. Smart women can sometimes get really excited over a guy's resume, especially when he's gone to the right schools and held the right jobs. If a doctor gets into a relationship, he won’t give up until there is a genuine reason to break the thing off.You can talk about your periods, your crams, that ugly mole, the weird scar you have or any skin allergy.They went through a lot schooling to get where they are now.The job requires a lot of determination, sincerity and a good IQ. Having an intelligent boyfriend makes life very sorted and fulfilling, trust me!Strictly speaking, this does not set a man's heart aflame (though it may give him heartburn). Men also love it when you're open to needing and receiving their help.In her insightful book on why men don't call women back after a date, Rachel Greenwald lists this 'Boss Lady Syndrome' as the #1 reason men run, based on a survey of thousands of men. They like to feel useful and wanted, even though they know full well that you can open doors and run companies on your own.She feels intimidated by his intelligence: "Is he smarter/more educated/more successful than me?" Now she's feeling silly when she doesn't know something, or tries to one-up him and have the upper hand.