You need to make a point of standing out from the crowd. If you want to keep her from automatically reaching for the delete button when your message hits her inbox, you need to grab her attention.
This means no generic usernames – UTexas09 or Portland77 – or inappropriate ones – anything involving the word Love, Luv or implying that you are the A number one master of orgasms. A clever, attention-getting subject line – especially one that indicates you actually is key.
Odds are good that your email got lost in the churn of every other guy out there who was trying to get her attention as well…
and suffered the same fate as all the others, consigned to the digital garbage bin.
This also means that you need to have an attention-getting subject line to your messages. If she talks about sports, mention sports in the title.
The most common subject line that women receive is a variation on “Hello”: Hey, Hi, ‘sup, Yo, how YOU doin’, etc. If you two have a mutual interest in books, put that in the subject! I’ve always had good responses from “Pirates are inherently better than Ninjas” or “Zombies are superior to Vampires”.
Most dating sites allow you to add “Active Within $TIME” to any search string.
” email and log back in to see who’s been trying to reach them; odds are high that any such emails are either ignored, sent to the spam folder or deleted without being read in the first place.
You may also want to watch out for active profiles by people who don’t actually spend the money to subscribe.
You do have certain beats that you want to hit in a first-contact email: who you are, why you’re interested in her, why she should be interested in you in return and a little bait to get her to respond.
You can change and update a template as you need, making it longer or shorter, working with more detail as necessary or even keeping it short and direct. You’re on the Internet: a primarily text-driven communication medium.