Again, undoubtedly having been hurt, he’s created a wall of rationalization, justifications and excuses for never forgiving certain people. We never need to live in emotional isolation because of being wounded sometime in our past.
We’ve all been hurt and disappointed in relationships—it comes with the territory—but we pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and use our good judgment about whom to trust in the future. It sounds extremely painful to live in a loveless, lifeless marriage.
Dan Savage, for example--who ironically began the It Gets Better Campaign to allegedly stop gay bullying--devoted an entire chunk of his sordid life working to link former Senator Rick Santorum's name to an internet definition of excrement mixed with semen; if you doubt me, look it up.
Unlike physical abuse, the people doing it and receiving it may not even know it’s happening.
Here are 11 Things I’ve Tried to Become a Little More Emotionally Available Baby steps my friends, I am afraid of looking a fool. From grade school to high school I had multiple teachers say that girls were too dumb to do math.When this continues year after year, the relationship shrivels and eventually dies.A marriage is like a delicate flower needing constant attention and nutrients.He admittedly says he doesn't trust people including me. He is very proud and concerned with image at all costs.I've been told by Christian counselors that he is emotionally crippled and childlike and unless he is willing to allow God to heal him, he will always operate this way.Of course he can work on trust, even if simply starting with a desire to trust.By accepting the false reality that he Of course he can forgive, but, like you and me, has to be willing to forgive.The truth of the matter is this: even though we can’t break-up with ourselves entirely, we can dump the parts that we don’t like to make room for better things.Tearing down the walls of emotional unavailability is hard, like probably the hardest thing, but it’s worth it in the end because of the whole deep meaningful super-connected relationships thing.I’m not at all suggesting that you are responsible for his emotional distance.What I’m saying is that you have undoubtedly developed a patterned, predictable response to his behavior—and this is worth critically exploring. Having explored your behavior, and worked on behaving as effectively as possible, you must also make it clear to him that you cannot endure emotional distance indefinitely. I work with couples in my It often takes a breakdown of our way of doing things before there can be a breakthrough, allowing God to work in our lives.