But I must say that there is some merit to Korean boys’ courting style that is hard to match.
So here, I list out some of the common occurrences of dating a Korean guy based on my personal experience and of the experiences of my lovely Korean girlfriends.
Valentines Day (Feb 14th) – In Korea, Valentines day in Korea is a day that women give to the men.
You can even call them and have them deliver a fully-charged battery to your girlfriend or boyfriend who texted you “sorry babe, might go MIA because I’m running out of battery.” Yes, there’s no way getting out of this. Be organized, because it’s an anniversary every other week.
Silver Day (July 14th) – couples exchange silver accessories.
This is just my personal experience, please read it with a light heart.Once you get serious, then the paying becomes a bit more even, maybe girls pay 3:7/4:6. I’m sure most of you have heard of this phrase through Psy’s Gangnam Style.This phrase carries an odd mix of varying sentiments that ranges from being responsible, protective, to having more power, status, and right. Peppero Day (November 11th) -The sticks resemble the date, 11/11, when people give a boxes of pepero sticks to their love interest. White Day (March 14th) – This is the day for the men to give to the women. As a rule, a traditional Korean woman carried a small silver knife. It’s interesting to watch American films emphasizing the 3-date-rule, because really? Of course, this is generalization and there are variations, but the main point is that although the ideology of sex is changing rapidly, mostly due to media, there’s still a stigma on girls having sex before marriage. The “proper” women must remain chaste, and the requirements of being chaste are utterly crazy. As Askakorean blog concisely states, Women in Korea were clearly divided into two camps along the dichotomy, and it is a one-way street if they do cross the divide. Instead, Korean couples use kakaotalk messenger to keep each other updated non-stop. There’s always variations from couple to couple, but the fact that this list exists may come as a surprise. While couples in North America are much more “chill” and like to take things slow, my observation of Korean couples is that they love going all out and externally celebrating their togetherness. Regardless, it’s good to see guys putting as much effort into looking nice and “dolling” up, but they would expect you to do the same. For instance, while it’s extremely subtle, they may exert more authority or expect you to show more “child-like” behaviors. In Korea, age determines how you refer to one another (unlike in Canada where everyone calls each other names).I hear in Canada, guys stop paying after 2,3 dates, or even on second dates it’s common to go dutch. Although there seems to be a shift in this dynamic very recently, it’s still very normal for guys to be the one getting tab all the time. When a guy is older than a girl, the girl refers to this guy as “Oppa.” But it really doesn’t matter how old you are, because if a guy is interested in you, he’ll try to act like an Oppa anyways.