We grow up, find work, find someone to marry, have children and accomplish other such purposes without paying them much attention. Perhaps that is true for some people; but certainly not for everyone, and probably not for most.
Most of the effortless success that others seem to have is an illusion.
If you look at one house every week or so, this process can take a long time.
If you look at ten or twenty houses in a week or so—which is possible—you can find that house pretty soon. I think everyone should always be looking for a new job, in case a better job shows up unpredictably, as they do from time to time. Interviewing requires putting yourself up for someone else’s approval, or disapproval.
The problems inherent in this process are two: it is difficult to find four or five hundred job possibilities, and This same process of pursuing statistically unlikely opportunities is required for success in many endeavors, for example, publishing a novel, or trying out for a professional sports team, or leading a successful rock band. Some young men and women meet in high school; and sometime later, perhaps years later, they marry.
Most people who reach these objectives only do so after repeated attempts. They never have to deal with the awful feelings of unrequited love.
They have never experienced the difficult problem of turning away a suitor without hurting his/her feelings.
The economy may be struggling, but these days Cupid has found some profitable new niches.
With about 95 million single adults in the United States, the online matchmaking industry is booming, to the tune of a billion dollars in revenue projected for 2012.
There have indeed been some important changes, says Sara Vasilenko, a postdoctoral fellow in Penn State’s Prevention Research Center and Methodology Center.
“One of the biggest differences between young people today compared to earlier generations,” she notes, “is that they are getting married at later ages.” A recent Pew study shows that marriage is at a record low in the United States and the median age at first marriage has never been higher for both genders.