It's tempting to idealize a man you've observed but haven't had the opportunity to date. She even had signs that pointed to the fact that he was "the one." All was well — until he announced he was engaged to someone else. She had nothing objective to go on; no evidence that he was destined to be her husband. But He works His inscrutable will through natural means.The longer this goes on, the more you can convince yourself that "he's the one." The hard reality is that if he's not initiating, or even reciprocating, what you have is a crush. And when it comes to making a marriage in our day, that's most often done through the natural process of friendship, conversation, dating, attraction, and input from older believers.Note especially verse 26: "[T]hough his hatred be covered with deception, his wickedness will be exposed in the assembly." This verse warns us against overvaluing gracious speech and commends to us the protection of our church body.It's imperative to get the input and approval of your pastor, elders, and close, mature friends in your congregation.He is an incredibly godly man, loves Jesus, loves people, respects and takes care of his mom, is hard-working, kind, fun, humble, self-sacrificial, loved and respected by so many, responsible, and so many other amazing qualities.
If he were pursuing you, I would say there's no biblical reason that you must date other men before deciding he's the one.First, I'm not in the business of always looking for the "next best guy." I understand the wisdom of going on multiple dates with different guys, but when I have found the one that I would like to marry, be committed to, and serve, it doesn't seem fair or considerate to continue to date other really great men when I know that my heart is elsewhere.I'm not planning our wedding, making life decisions based on a future with him, practicing my signature with his last name, or anything like that. To the first — Is it OK to know whom you want to marry without having dated many, or even one or two, or three other men? Not only can it be OK, often it's better than the alternative of dating around to see what you want in a husband.“Marriage, Not Dating” is a 2014 South Korean drama series directed by Song Hyun Sook.I absolutely adore, respect and cherish a guy I know.The first and most important quality is that he be a believer.First Corinthians says a widow "is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord." This applies not just to widows, but to all of us.I know there are many people that would deter me from putting my hope in one man, that would encourage me to go on dates with different people, be open to different things and different people for the reason of finding someone better.I understand their thought process, but I don't completely agree with it.What a godly man is: righteous, wise, generous, helpful, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money, dignified, not double-tongued, not addicted to much wine, and not greedy for dishonest gain (see Job 29:7-25, especially 15-17, 1 Timothy 3:2-3, 8).What a godly man is not: quarrelsome, foolish, lazy, a whisperer, hateful, flattering, puffed up, obtuse, deceitful (see Proverbs -26).