Let’s say he dated seven people in his first two months and then found a happy relationship that lasted for a year and a half.After a month of mourning and attempted make-up sex, he reposts his profile once again. Naturally, I’ve long been an advocate for online dating, not because it’s perfect, but because it ALWAYS created a love life for me.are, not just what you want in a significant other.Use most of your profile to discuss yourself, your hobbies and interests, and your values and temperament.We don’t know their age or their sign or their likes and dislikes. We learn about them first, and discover attraction later.
The real upshot, Barb, is that by understanding this—by being more open and forgiving of men, by keeping a positive attitude, by going on multiple sites, by persevering despite the frustration—you give yourself a much greater chance of success than if you said, “Online dating is bullshit, men are bullshit, I quit.” Quitters never win. Also, I dated a guy for a time who almost seems to be addicted. Barb Dear Barb, There are two things going on in your question, and I want to address them separately: First, let’s dispel the notion that there’s something wrong with someone who’s a) on two years after he signed up, and b) signed up for multiple dating sites. The only way you’d know if the same guy was on two years later is if YOU were on the site two years later.The only way you’d know that he’s also on e Harmony is if you’re ALSO on e Harmony.RELATED: 30 Signs You're in a Toxic Relationship All this success hasn't escaped writers and researchers like myself, who study strategies and tally statistics when it comes to what works and what doesn't in the digital dating world.One relevant finding: Every year, the most popular day for app sign-ups is the Sunday after New Year's Day. But before you spend this Sunday swiping with the rest of the singles, make sure to craft a killer profile by avoiding these common mistakes.You want marriage, you want kids, you’re ready for love. Dozens of women parade across your screen, each younger, smarter, more attractive, more tantalizing than the last.Suddenly, you’re corresponding with 12 people online, have five phone numbers, and three dates scheduled in a weekend.Maybe the pickings were slim on Chemistry, so you branched out to Perfect Match.There is another myth in your question, Barb—the idea that someone who signed up on Match in January ‘06 and is still on in January ‘08 has been on for two consecutive years.This is not the GOAL, but an almost uncontrollable byproduct of the choice and volume inherent in online dating.And this is what gets lost on all the people who say that every man’s a player who’s just out to get laid.