We share secrets and personal stuff with them, we support them, and they stand by us. Attraction without closeness is more like a crush or infatuation.
You're attracted to someone physically but don't know the person well enough yet to feel the closeness that comes from sharing personal experiences and feelings.
And the kind of love we feel in romantic relationships is its own unique type of love.
Our ability to feel romantic love develops during adolescence.
People at this stage might daydream about a crush or a new BF or GF. It hasn't had time to grow into emotional closeness that's needed for love.
This is the time when people start thinking about finding someone they can commit to in the long run — a love that will last.
We typically have shorter relationships as teens because adolescence is a time when we instinctively seek lots of different experiences and try out different things.
It's all part of discovering who we are, what we value, and what we want out of life.
It's all so intense, exciting, and hard to sort out.
The crazy intensity of the passion and attraction phase fades a bit after a while.