Our pastor recently preached a sermon on strategic bridge-burning.
He didn’t really call it that, but that’s what it was about.
Frankly, I can’t think of anybody who has succeeded in anything by keeping all the options open.
Whether explicitly or implicitly, successful people understand the concept of strategic bridge-burning.
We discern God’s calling on our lives through a consistent life of prayer, devotion to discipleship, and pursuit of wise counsel.The biblical passage was 1 Kings 19, where the prophet Elijah calls his successor Elisha.The story begins with Elisha behind a team of oxen, plowing his field.We keep peeling and peeling, ultimately finding that there is not a whole lot there except that little pale bulb inside the onion—not the most impressive part of this vegetable.I don’t think he studied game theory, but Campolo would have agreed with strategic bridge-burning.We are defined by our commitments, but like Elisha, our commitments are defined by what we leave behind.The history of Christianity concerns the Christian religion, Christendom, and the Church with its various denominations, from the 1st century to the present.The data bear this out; couples who cohabit before marriage are more likely to be divorced later.A recent meta-study of 16 individual studies estimates that the odds of cohabiting couples staying together after marriage are only 81% of that of couples who do not cohabit before marriage.Only then will she marry him and will they live happily ever after.This is one of the reasons I’m not a fan of cohabitation. By keeping everyone’s options open, the commitment necessary to work through difficulty and create the foundation for a lasting relationship too often fails to materialize.